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What Stays

Coming from another funeral - this time in Europe - the question lingers: What stays if we have to die anyway? In this case, love stayed. Love stayed long after the body of the loved one was felled by a series of strokes. For a dozen years the spouse cared for the loved one, with a thousand fears and doubts and difficulties, but never faltering. After all those many years, the loved one died at home, with the family by the bedside. - We all wish for such a death. And such a love. Not asking what is in there for me. But asking what is the needed thing to do now. - We hear too much about who should be allowed to marry and who not. We should hear more what marriage involves. Not figuring out what he/she does wrong, but what he/she needs now. Whenever I feel sorry that I am not getting what I want, I feel a distances from the people I am with. When I ask: What can I give? What does he/she need now?, I feel close - and rewarded. (It goes without saying that I don't condone cruelty, abuse, and the myriad of vices that make a marriage unbearable.) We all know too many examples of the contrasting outcome: The spouse divorces the ailing partner, and runs away with the money, to a better life. A better life? I cannot think of life and time better applied than caring thus. Read More 
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